Our original agreement was to just pay it outside the court system and adjust the amount owed according to actual cost. She balked at that a while ago and wants it to go through CSEA. The amount when we agreed was $ 200 a month. 50 for ins, 50 for school lunch, and 100 for clothing. Since she is going to run it through CSEA it just becomes $ 200 per month, period. So if anything goes up, CS stays at $200. She kind of shafted herself on that one.
Background: She makes more than I do and we share time almost exactly 50-50 so there really should be no support. Her ins is better and cheaper than mine so we chose that route. With the lunches the school does an auto deduct so we took last years total amount deducted and my half came to $ 50 a month. With the clothing, she has typically done most of the clothes shopping so we decided she would just keep doing it and I would kick in $ 50 per boy per month. The other option is both of us shop and we reimburse based on receipts. Thats too hard to track.
Clear as mud now?
I was thrown by your comment that she shafted herself when in reality it's your kids who are in need of lunch, insurance and clothing. Kids grow fast and need lots of stuff. I think she was right to do it the way she did, but it will be hassle to go back to court and get increases.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
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