helpjim, I'm newer to DB than you are, but am in a similar NC sitch with my WAW. From what i can tell, she has me blocked on her phone and email.
It's a bit expensive, but i have done three DB coaching sessions and they have helped a great deal. The coach (Chuck) has helped me see angles possible outcomes of actions I've thought of and probably prevented me from making the sitch worse. The coaching has been so helpful that I dug deep again and purchased three more.
If you want any more specific info on my sitch or coaching experience, I'm happy to share.
Me: 39 W: 46 D: 7.5 S: 5 SD: 16 SS: 12 T: 2 (06/2012) M: 2 (12/2012) Separation 09/2014. No talks of D yet. No communication since 10/3/2014