She has even complained that she wants a man that is CONFIDENT in her marriage. I have never really figured this out unless it means that she wants a man that is confident that his wife LOVES him, without her having to make the effort to SHOW that he is loved. THe only problem with that is love is a PHYSICAL ACT. I can not receive love unless it is shown physically. This is where LD women and their actions fall apart on a HD man. HD men do not differentiate between desire for sex with the wife and LOVE for the wife. I know that I can not separate the two. If I loss desire for the wife physically, that will also be the day that I lose all love for her. LD women do not connect sexual desire to LOVE. Therefore, when they lose sexual interest, they don't see the problem, they still LOVE you! This will still be seen by the HD man as complete loss of love!! For many LD women, they see there HD husbands as the bottomless pit of sexual need, and no matter what they do, they will never be able to fill it. It seems like a huge task to them. No if they were HD women, it really is a manageable task, but LD/ND women just don't have the juice(testosterone) to get the job done in many cases. My guess is that even when us HD guys strip the problem down to teh absolute bare minimum for our own needs, the LD women still see this as a huge mountain for them to climb. I know that for me, I would love to have sex DAILY(like the first 4 years of my realtionship). My wife on the other hand is like yours. She has told me that if she never has sex again, that would be OK with her. So what is a possible negotiable solution? Every other day? That would be a 50 % reduction for my needs, and yet that would have a snowballs chance in h#ll for the wife to meet. Still looks like the bottomless pit for her. Twice a week. Barely aceeptable top me, probably is not acceptable to a ND women, still the bottomless pit! So what I have seen happen, is that for most HD guys with women that are ND, is that any solutions is probably going to be a whole lot closer to NO sex then to our desired levels.
