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[25yearsmlc]

@Little yes she moved in with OM for that year and as we had no children there was no real need for contact, but I did the usual begging and pleading by text but she just ignored every message I sent her, after a couple of weeks of no response I just stopped sending her any text and I had no contact with her for the next 6 month, then out of the blue and on the day of my birthday she turned up at my work place with a gift and card, she was crying and told me how sorry she was for what she had done we hugged and we both were crying and then she left, well for the next 6 months we exchanged text maybe once a week just the usual hi how you doing stuff, but that all changed when I started dating W number 2, the one I'm Dbing now, that seemed to send W number 1 in to panic mode as she could see she was going to lose me for ever, so then the frantic phone calls started declaring her love for me and how we should make a go of our M and it was a huge mistake, at this time I was actually in love with w1 and W2 at the same time but I chose W number 2

A sad thing is W number 1 died only 4 weeks ago from cancer, I went to her funeral, I chatted to her family and they told me she had never stopped loving me and always regretted what she did

Paul

Please accept my condolences about your first w's death. That stinks.

So, do you have any regrets on your end about that marriage not getting another chance? (I'm not judging you - I'm just asking ) -
especially since you ended up here anyhow, with w#2.

What role do you feel you may have played in your first and or second m's issues - and do you worry a lot about repeating that again? I mean, did You do any growing or changing? Is this the first time you've come here for help?

I ask this b/c you have had the benefit of some time. However, my former bil is in his second failing m (he left my sister after 3 kids and 22 years and regretted doing that, but she had moved on and remarried, pretty happily)

and yet he's still sort of the same, but really sad.

What "insurance" are you going to try to create that would reduce the chances of you ending up back here with another wife?

No offense meant, just asking about the learning curve, digging deep within, and goals, etc.