Cadet, thanks for the response! You're right. I'm so used to taking blame and accepting it, that actually letting him convince me that situation was all my fault was an easy trap to fall into.
Later in the day H texted me and said the situation was worked out and thanked me for talking. I just said "Of course" and that I was happy everything worked out well. Always reminding myself to stay positive (or at least only show a PMA).
Something also happened today-- I got a card from H's grandma in the mail, basically saying that she had mixed emotions about us separating but didn't hold any angst towards me. She also said "thankfully the separation happened before the marriage". H is VERY close with his family so this threw me off a little. We had kept the marriage a secret, but he came clean to his parents and brother when we split. I'm really surprised he hasn't told the rest of his family the truth. I'm not sure if it should, but it bothered me a little.
Me 26 ; H 26 S 8 Married less than a year Bomb 9/15/14 H moves out 9/15/14 H Files 11/21/14 Served D papers 12/31/14
