Mindsin - Part 7 (Dark times)

[mindsin]

I began talks with my W regarding separation of finances. I told her that I am ready to "set her free". She thanked me.

That was Monday. Today, she sends me the following e-mail:

"I am meeting your brother for dinner (just the two of us) this Friday. I feel the need to see him, maybe it's a way to say good bye, but I do miss seeing him.

Do you have any plans for this weekend? I was thinking we can drop the kids off at your parents house, sit down over a bottle of wine and go over some stuff.

For New Year's - I want to spend the night, just the four of us. It probably the last time the kids will see all of us together. I want them to remember ringing in the new year's.

Then she went on to detail some ideas regarding a New Year's weekend trip.

I only replied, "Let's talk tonight".

I feel that I need to stop fighting her. If this is the only way to get me to stop my pressuring and pursuing, and be on the road to TRUE detachment, then let it be the way. By that e-mail, she already started "opening up" to me, and the idea of being around me isn't so bad anymore. At least, that's my take.

I didn't get the whole "the last time the kids will see all of us together" part. I plan on simply being up front with her tonight and ask her. In my mind, it most certainly won't be the last time. There will be birthday parties, school events, and other life events where we will all be together.

Any words of wisdom would be appreciated here. Thanks.