Hi everyone. Thanks for bringing my thread back up Bright and kml! When I tried to post on the old thread it was locked or maybe I just forgot how to post! LOL
Not sure how or where to begin but here goes.
July 2014 - h tells me he's had it with ow. She has become even more crazy, controling and demanding. He said it actually started last December while they were on a trip. H is planning the next steps to rid himself of her. He distances himself from her and her drama.
August - ow decides she is going to live a more "fulfilling" life than h wants to live and starts to do her own thing while still being taken care of in the manner that she feels entitled to. H was still paying all the bills because ow couldn't get a regular salaried job and had to go back into commission sales. She has had no income since moving here in June 2013. He took away all of her access to the money that he gave her to pay bills (separate account, thank God). She becomes angry, abusive and determined to get back at him for taking away her ability to secretly syphon money from the household budget for herself and to send to her lazy adult child. He withdraws the separation agreement and speaks with an attorney about evicting her. The lawyer shocked him back to reality by saying that it sounded like she had found a sugar daddy. It pissed h off to hear that from another man but that was the beginning what I think was a wakeup call for him.
September - ow installs locks on doors to 3 rooms inside HIS home and tells him that he's not allowed to enter. He sends her formal notice to vacate by September 30th. WE post it on every entry door to the house as well as all of the interior doors. She rips them all down and tells him she will leave when she's good and ready to leave. He removes some of his valuables and brings them to my house. With the deadline to get her sorry a$$ out of the house he sends her a reminder about her deadline for departure. She goes ballistic and starts sending him nasty, condescending emails attacking his character, threatens to ruin his career and sends me threatening emails. He has me send the threatening emails and texts that I received from the ow to his attorney. The attorney tells him that he's fortunate to have an understanding wife who didn't kick his a$$ to the curb. Yep, he actually tells me this.
October - He puts the house up for sale. She tells him she will do everything in her power to stand in the way of the sale because she isn't leaving the house until she's old and gray! HA! He remains calm and seems to have been jolted out of his mlc. Everything is clearer now and he sees her for what she was after from the beginning of their r. She continues to lock herself in rooms while he is there and doesn't allow him access to most of the house. At this point, I become a concerned for both of our safety and tell him to get the heck out of there. He has friends that he could stay with until she was out of there.
He refuses to leave saying that it's his home and she isn't going to run him out of it. Bad move on his part. On a Sunday evening in mid October she came to his bedroom as he was sleeping, jumped on him and started slapping and beating him up. He grabbed her wrists and told her to stop. She kept kicking and fighting him. He pushed her off and tried to settle her down. After an hour of her screaming, ordering him to get her another blanket, change sheets on her bed (crazy) and threatening him, she calmed down. He stayed there trying to decide what to do. He called me at 4am telling he was on his way over and needed to talk. I told him the logical thing to do was to call the police. As we talked the ow was sending more threatening emails and texts to him. She told him that he should sleep with one eye open and that she wasn't finished with him etc. While he wasn't encouraging her he kept her talking. So now we have it ALL in writing, texts, emails to both of us!!!! He asked me to go with him to the local Sheriff's office to file the report. He seemed so vulnerable and was still in shock. I ended up going with him. An hour later we were on our way to the house with the Sheriff.
They went in to talk to her. About 10 minutes later one of them comes back out to talk to us. She claimed that everything was just fine and that there was no trouble. As they questioned her further and told her what my h claimed she told them that he had tried to rape her!!!! Neither Sheriff bought her story saying that she was too calm and that her story didn't add up so they were going to arrest her and take her to jail for domestic abuse. A few minutes passed. My h seemed nervous and as if he were afraid. She came out in handcuffs looking like she was on her way to the grocery store. No emotion, talking to the cop that was bringing her out like it was no big deal. My h had tears in his eyes.
They held her for an entire day and evening until her h (who lives in another state) could find someone to come and pick her up.
H contacted the attorney to find out how to remove her things. Long story short, she was given 2 weeks to get it all out otherwise it was up to my h to do with it as he pleased. He had the attorney send her notice that she had 1 day to get it all out. Since they had a no contact order I had to be there on the day that she moved. She has so much junk to remove it took 3 good sized moving trucks and 10 hours to get it all out of there. One of the trucks alone was filled with her clothes. I called them "tools of the trade". Fancy clothes for luring in her victims! LOL Yep, she's got it down and has obviously done this before. I'm betting that no one has every had the princess arrested.
It occurred to me after observing her behavior and recalling all that my h has shared with me about her over the past year and a half that I was watching an out of control Narcissist.
H alert! He just called. He will be here in a few minutes. Will get back here later to finish this after he leaves. What I haven't had a chance to write is what's more important than the drama and where I need help and advice.
