HP, You are doing JUST FINE... Great job this morning....
Remember Even Michelle says in DR Question: 1. Conflict and anger are signs that your relationship is failing?
Answer: FALSE.....
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Michelle says..All marriages, even the best of marriages have their ups and downs. It's impossible to live under the same roof with another human being for any length of time and NOT disagree now and then. People in loving marriages understand that conflict goes with the marital territory. It's more than unavoidable, it's NECESSARY. People need to let off steam and air their differences. When they don't, they're in for trouble. The fact is, the single biggest predictor of divorce is the constant avoidance of conflict.
You did fine. Your wife understands deep inside. She knows what she is doing is wrong... Just keep fine tuning.
How do we know your wife understood your anger this morning? BECAUSE SHE TOLD YOU.. This..
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All of this that's happening is my fault. You've done nothing wrong.
Now this was AFTER she came back in.. So we can see that what you are doing is working... She is teetering back and forth.. No biggie.. This is what we want.... Just keep the pressure off.. No matter what you are hearing from others about your anger we know your wife understands it because of what she said....
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YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG....I was telling my dad last night that you are a great man
You are gaining her respect back, which shows you are on the right track.. Even she says you have done nothing wrong... She's feeling the guilt now because she feels you slipping away.... Back and forth in her own private thoughts.. Keep the pressure off. Let her come to her own conclusions..
Sometimes a little anger is necessary....It's ok. You handled it just fine.
Michelle says it's ok...... Move forward...... You are doing fine.... Keep fine tuning...
