I just had the snip done last August and, although the next day or two I had some pain, it wasn't too bad. Like CeMar, it hasn't made a difference in the bedroom, but that wasn't the reason I did it. I did it because I didn't want to make a difference in the number of beds in the house.
Your story is so sad to me, Superdave. 20 years is a long time. I know about the allure of an HD woman. I dated one in between my ex and my current wife. 7 months of mind-blowing uninhibited sex. She totally spoiled me for anything else. She was a butt-grabbin', winking, do-it-anywhere/anytime girl, and I think about her all the time. I was laying in bed this morning, trying to cuddle with my W, and it was like cuddling with a statue. I've only been in this marriage for 4 years and I'm already crazy...couldn't imagine what 20 would feel like. I hope you can get her to go to the doctor, but mainly for the counseling. I recommend that you go ahead and do the vasectomy.
