I feel like he is very much in control of the outcome here. Frankly, I feel like he has already decided on what the outcome will be. It feels like emotional blackmail.
Why is he in charge of the outcome? You could decide whatever you want for your life. You get to choose if you want to stand or not. You get to choose how you walk this. You get to decide what your life will look like. You have power in all this, S.
Originally Posted By: Ss06
Like he's saying:
Be better, be amazing, don't get upset, don't ask questions, don't expect anything from me at all but put up with everything I dish out and be grateful.
Thats not what dbing is all about. Its not about keeping your mouth shut and rolling over. Its about becoming your best self. Its about becoming strong. So that you do things differently then you did before if you need to. Its about changing those things that YOU think need changing. It isnt about allowing him to do whatever he wants. Its about accepting that this is his choice and that you are going to live your life in the best way you know how.
About the lights, you allowed him to walk away without putting things away because you feel he should know to do that. But that didnt get the lights put away. So, you had two choices. You could have said something in a way that wasnt patronizing. "I would appreciate it if you help put the boxes away before you go as it is difficult for me to maneuver them." or you put them away. Your choice.
You are allowing him to take advantage of you, S. You have the power to stop that. You have to act from a place of strenght, not fear.
About the nail for the wreath...just do that stuff yourself, S. You dont need him for that.
