Thanks sandi and as always I know you are right I need to get back to improving ME and not be concerned about what she says and things I can not control

Today she invited me for dinner again and I again turned down the invite, then she sends me a text saying
Have I done something to offend you
I get the feeling you have been off
with me for a few days
and I would rather you spit it out

It looks like me not accepting all her invites makes her feel I'm been grumpy with her which I'm not
Anyway I told her I was fine with her, and we had a little joke about something my mother did that we both found funny