*hugs* From someone that feels the same way, I offer you what solace and comfort I can from afar.
I wish there was so magical way we could fix our situations, all of us that have had to resort to this site.
I, myself, find little things to talk to BF about all the time and truly wish that whatever it is we have between us, he felt as strongly about it as I do. God, you're so right about that soul feeling of something NOT RIGHT in your world when the one you love so deeply isn't right there with you.
Hang in there. You're not alone, not by a long shot.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies