Newcomer With Hope (3)

[Mozza]

To answer your question, being busy doesn't help me all that much. Like you, the thoughts seep into the tiniest openings. What helps is to have a rationale that gives peace in the moment.

1. Patience. The future is unknown. It's a marathon. Just survive today.
2. This R with OM makes no sense and I'm a great H, she'll be back!
3. Either way, it gets better over time.
4. She f-ed up. Our R is broken. I don't even want her back. Good luck, OM!
5. There's passion in my future, with W or another woman!
6. Being happy and active is my best way to attract W or someone else. Do it or fail.

Keep in mind that this is all just devices to help our patience. Much of the sitch is not under our control. Time needs to work its magic, whether it's our acceptance or their return. The uncertainty is beyond uncomfortable, but it's what we have to accept.