Angry WAH blames me for everything.......

[TLEE86]

Wow thats a deep post! I definitely hear you on what you're saying about the drama triangle and can definitely see myself in the same persecutor/rescuer role. My question to you is you mentioned you're working to get out of the triangle. What exactly are you doing? Curious to hear what you have to say in later posts about how to show your vulnerable side.

Can't remember but because you were always the tough one in the relationship, I'm assuming you're H was always the soft one, and like you said the victim? Like DB says, relationships are always a see-saw. When one person takes on one role, the other person doesn't have to, and plays the other role. IMHO, because you are always so tough and "don't have a lot of sympathy for victims," you are not letting your H have the opportunity to get out of the role of victim. By constantly showing that you are a hard ass, your H will continue to be soft, which in turn makes you more frustrated and more irritated at why he is the way he is. Please let us know what you come up with as your course of action. I know I've learned a lot just by reading your thread.

BTW, glad to see you put up your tree. I have yet to do that. You're a better person than I am right now. ha