I agree and since my W will not agree to full transparency, I find myself slipping back into DBing. I reviewed some of the advice from my DB coach from a month ago and it seems to apply still in my situation, which is frustrating.
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed