need help 4 - final

[lostluv]

the wife still insisted it is over and never really tried. She has found an apartment and is moving this saturday. I am going to refinance the house into my name only and assume the mortgage. My lawyer said he could have a separation agreement ready this week. Will also be putting in the official filing for divorce. as long as there is no contest, there is a 90 day mandatory waiting period here in PA and since I have common friends of the lawyer, he is going to do everything for a flat fee of $750.

friends and family know that I was crushed through the past several months and are asking if I"m sure I want to file immediately. The wife still says that's what she wants so I'm not going to oppose anymore. Even if she comes to me in a few months and says she feels it was a mistake and wants to work things out, I would have extreme issues with trust. What would keep her from doing the same thing in a couple years?

as of now, she has agreed to be civil and work everything out between us without being nasty. we are assuming our own share of what little debt we have. I'm assuming a little extra as "buy out" of equity in our home. we both feel that the responsibility of our daughter is 50/50 so as such , it will be a 50/50 custody arrangement in the decree. as for support.... we are planning on working out expenses for my daughter without going through the system. unfortunately, in PA it doesn't matter even if you have it in writing to agree on a set amount, it can always be modified by the state through court according to the guidelines amount.

although I didn't want to give up, I pretty much had no choice. the more I tried, the more it hurt. I feel it is easier knowing that I don't have to try anymore. she knows that I still love her but it does NOT work when it's one sided.

Hope to get things done in a timely manner and move on while remaining civil for our daughter's sake.

unfortunately, I don't think I will ever open my heart completely again.