How am I supposed to measure progress if I go dark? Is progress measured in time spend together? Times she contacts me? Emails to me?

I am unsure of his to gauge any movement if I don't communicate with her.

I am having to sit on my hands to not text or call her. This is very hard for me.

Together 19 years
9 year S
5 year old D
Bomb Dropped - Sept 2014
Affair with OW - Sept 2014
Moved Out - Oct 2014
Status - Separated Dec 2014

Was made a better person by DB'ers