I'm so sorry for not responding sooner. I didn't have access to the computer for a few days frown Thank you all for your input. I realize that I'm at a very different point than where I was when I first found out about the affair, and I wish I had found this website sooner.
My H feels very remorseful and ashamed of what he did. He can't believe that he let himself get fooled into having the affair and he's ashamed of himself for the pain he caused me and the kids. We didn't feel it was necessary to go to MC together, as we have had great communication since the A happened. My counselor also doesn't feel that it would be wise to do MC together and bring back all that heartache from the A that we both experienced.
As far as myself and what I'm doing, I'm trying not to be so controlling, needy and clingy. All big issues I had before the affair which, in some way, contributed to my H being unhappy and unfaithful. Not to say that I take any blame for what happened, because he certainly had a choice, but there were things I knew I needed to work on afterwards to make myself better. He takes full responsibility for all of it and doesn't blame me at all. As far as what he's doing to make things better; he answers his phone every time I call, he tells me where he will be and calls if he will be home late, and he's taking on more responsibility around the house and with the kids. I appreciate what he's doing so much, which is why I can't understand the anger I have with him. I figured the anger would happen sooner, but after I discovered the affair all I wanted to do was reconcile. I guess I just never expected this anger to occur.

M: 33 H: 45
Married 10 yrs.
T: 12 yrs.
Kids: 4 yr old and 7 yr old
Bomb Drop 8/7/14
OW gone as of 8/21/14