A New Day

[Lifes Twists]

Well thanksgiving was great. I had a full table with family and friends over. Lots of food and everyone had a great time.

On Friday I went out to a bar for the first time. Met up with some HS classmates for drinks and conversation. My oldest asked me where I had gone later in the weekend and I told her out. She asked where and I told her. She asked with who and I was a bit evasive. I was a bit shocked that she questioned so much and her body language. Kinda came across that I was not supposed to do that.

Last night I took two daughters out for burgers. I asked them how their time with their mother was. Oldest told me that everyone is trying to get used to the new person mom had become. She is apparently very talkative now. from what I have heard her new medications and counseling is have a very positive affect on her. She was very closed off and non talkative before, but now seems very open and talking a lot. It will be interesting to see where his goes. I wish her the best and hope she continues to improve.

This week I hope to have movement on the job front. Its also time to start thinking about setting up for Christmas.

[123Gwen]

LT - Sounds like you have all the makings for a sweet holiday season. Thanks for sharing your journey.

[Lifes Twists]

Do you believe in divine intervention?

Either I am going crazy or I am believing. You may ask why?

Last night I had a strong, almost over whelming, urge to go out and get my mail. Its cold out and I could have just as easily left it till today, but no I have to go get it. It kept nagging at me all evening, so at 9PM I put on my shoes, jacket and trudge out to get the mail. When I get in I start to go through it and there is a letter addressed to me and my wife from the bank that holds the loan on her car. What is weird is she had the address changed so that they went to her apartment. I have not seen one here in two years. Since it is addressed to both of us I open it up. She is several month behind on her payment. So I ponder this for few minutes and then text her to ask if she is ok financially because of this letter. She admits she is having some issues. We then proceed to have the longest set of text messages we have had in a long time. I asked her if she needed some help. She replied that she knew I am not working. I told her I would see what I can do to help because I know that finacial issues were one of her biggest triggers to going into a depressive period. I go to bed. I wake up this morning and the letter has disappeared. I have searched high and low for it, but it is gone. My older two girls were not home last night and would not have seen it or taken it. I don't believe my younger one would have either. I actually looked at my phone to verify we had the convoe via text messages last night to make sure I did not dream this whole thing up.

I think back on certain events of this past year. When she first tried suicide, her second time, and now. I do think that someone is watching out for her. They are putting things in place to help her in some way. I really have no other explanation.

[job]

There are times when "divine intervention" can and will take place. You'll find the letter when you aren't actually looking for it. What were you doing when you contacted her last night and right after you hung up?

I'm glad you both had a good conversation about the financial situation and hopefully you can help her out a bit. The man upstairs has a way of making us stop and take notice at times.

[daring]

LT in so glad you had a great Thanksgiving with family.
I had no idea your health issues included facing a transplant- so glad you are well enough to do what you are doing now.

I definitely believe in Divine intervention- sometimes I wonder if this whole sitch I'm in is the result of it- that something beautiful is at the end of this journey that will be better than before- with or without my H.

I hope your Holiday season continues to be good!

[Lifes Twists]

Thanks Job and Daring,


Yea, I was diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis. Usually you either get a lung transplant or die. The doctors have no idea why it spontaneously cleared up. If you looked at the CAT scans over the last 4 years you can follow its progression. The final one before I was to go on transplant list it was clear. Doctor was at loss for explanation. Between this, people in right place to stop wifes suicide attempt and other incidents this year, I figure someone is looking out for us right now.

[Lifes Twists]

So I fired my attorney this morning. Because of his not responding to simple update requests, and it appearing that this is being drawn out I made the decision to fire him and represent myself going forward. It is amazing how quickly they will respond when the gravy train leave the station, yet don't respond to a simple update request.

I am not really worried at this point as most of the critical issues were taken care of in a previous court agreement. The final agreement has already been presented by her lawyer and is straight forward. I don't expect issues with some slight changes and should go through. The only issue will be if her attorney wants to drag this out. Either way, I don't pay any more money to attorneys.

[LoisB]

You're my hero.

[Lifes Twists]

Thanks Lois,

In Connecticut you can self represent yourself. My emails with my attorney before I fired him indicated he has not even read the proposed agreement yet. he and wifes attorney have their eyes set on going to court for more money.

[daring]

LT I hope it works out quickly so you can move forward with your life!