I think you know the answer to your own questions. This is why I still think it would be good for you to go away for a few days--for YOU!
Then, the next time she calls, you could say they you can't talk because you have to really finish some things before you go away. You can add that "maybe" you can touch base once you get back. And leave it at that. Rememeber, if your trying to maintain a lifetime R, some space for a few days is not necessarily a bad thing--and a mere speck of time in the grand scheme of things. KOFTGF.
