....To be honest I had a heart to heart with my H and least for now its been great. We both have started to reinvest in all parts of our relationship.
...For me the feeling of sex is multiple but the main thing is a physical connection, closeness and orgasm.
For my husband I really think its about the effort...
.. I think he maybe one of those people who needs to write "I love sex" So he can get past the initial feeling of its too much effort.
In our heart to heart he did say he doesnt feel like he has an outlet for his general daily irritations and since then we have been talking much more about the things that stress him, which I think has helped.
...I suggested that he returned to her (sex therapist) so he could have an outlet for his emotions as I think this is where the issues lie, he said it was a good idea but no action yet.
However at the moment its been good and keeping the lines of communication open and making effort and time is proving positive. So even if it doesn't last I am making the most of it now.....
Sounds like you made huge progress. Congratulations on having a talk with him and keeping it up. Yes, do follow up with the sex therapist, they can really help based on what they did for my wife and me.
Good luck and enjoy hour H during the holiday season!
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
