Labug I like your way of seeing things, I really feel through your words that you have been learning a lot for a long time. If you have a chance, please help a bit, I am somewhat very confused.
KGirl, I wish you can let go on all this resentment... it's not good for you alone.
It hurts more on you then on him now. I am no expert, but I have been working with my IC in some of my childhood grudges, resentments and I am learning how to forgive and let go and it is working for me, I feel better.
Now I can see that many of my fears, insecurities, inferiority complex were all connected to my resentments. I just wish I had realized this long ago and did the work I am doing now to let go of all these feeling that did not add anything to me but pain and more pain.
Listen to Labug, her analogy is perfect. At some point, who is gaining, who is losing, why the competition?
Hope you find peace in yourself, it's hard, it takes so much tears to get so deep in our souls and become clean with ourselves. The last 4 months of my life have been the hardest ones, but in some ways I am happy that I can finally be myself, no more masks reflected in the mirror.
