Any hope?

[sandi2]

And yet, you still measure your progress by her actions instead of your own. That is not uncommon for a LBH newcomer, but I suggest you stop watch her to grade yourself. For example, you listed the below as negative progress and not one thing has to do with you.

Now the negative things

Every now and then she will throw in a comment to make me jealous
She doesn't talk about a future with me and her together as a couple
She flirts with men when we are in the same bar
She wears sexier clothing when she goes out than she did when we were together
She tries to give the impression she is enjoying the single lifestyle

These are things you cannot control b/c they belong to her. However, to be fair, I think I know how you mean it. You believe if you make huge progress then she will stop doing these things, right? But my point is that you are giving her the power to control your life. You are basing how well or poorly you operate on her choices/actions. In some cases, it can be a message to the guy to change something he may be doing wrong, but in other cases it is simply due to that woman's bad decisions.

You will know you have grown when you can come here and say, "I was not swayed by her impolite comment about me". "I kept my PMA in spite of no invitations from her". "I have been so busy GAL that I seem to not notice if she has not contacted me". "I have peace in my life and feel happy even though WAW has not budged about reconciliation". (Just a few examples.)

Many times a LBH places so much focus on winning back his WAW that once she does return, then he finds himself resenting her and having difficulty in forgiving her. Why? B/c to him it was all about getting her back. He did not place attention on himself, so it's like a delayed reaction when he gets her back again. He wins the prize and then doesn't want it.