During the course of the conversation I realized how far "out of the loop" she really is. She had no idea about s13 gf even though I told her about it, and suggested she talk with him, she had no idea s13 had a basketball game today, she had no idea s13 had to wear a shirt and tie to school on game day, she had no idea s10 had a christmas program Thursday, and several other little deatails. I don't know what to do with this, or even if it should concern me.
bdub, most of this was true about my H even before we were S. He wouldn't have known about games, concerts, recitals, etc. had I not sent him appointments directly to his calendar. He never had any idea about the dress requirement on game days, he wondered every time why S was dressed up, if he even saw him at all before school. I handled all that because I thought I was being a good W. I wasn't, I created a clueless dad. But it's hard to explain to a kid why you knew about it but didn't tell dad......
I think your recognition of needing better communication with WAW is good, hopefully it will help pull her back into the loop for the kids. Be sure you are doing your part, but realize you can't make her do hers.
