Thanks everyone! I do need to give her some space. I haven't initiated any calls since Fri, just responding to calls or requests. She called last night to ask if dog could stay with me one more night because she was still remodelling at salon and it would help her out. She was hurried and sounded frustrated she was still there. She wasn't much for small talk and she wanted to pick up dog when she is in kennel outside this afternoon while I'm at work. She won't be able to see me. I happily agreed ok. She said she would talk to me later this week, I said TTFN.
I'm thinking she might have been so short because she wants to get that done, but also since OM might have been there.
I've been trying to link her + interactions with me and the timing of which relative to the time of month (PMS as she has mentioned she is especially emotional then), what she is doing, where she is at, and day of week or time of day.
I have come to think that during her PMS times, she seems more emotionally open and willing to share thoughts and feelings with me. Also during times when she is feeling down or depressed, especially about things relating to her family, she also shares of herself more openly. These feelings as well as other details of her life. I also think that during the later parts of the week when she is at work (not around OM) she is usually more + then in beginning of the week when she has more free time and might be with OM more often.
I will keep on monitoring. If she brings up papers again the next time we talk (most likely while I'm at work, recurring pattern) I think I'm going to say that I would prefer not to talk about it while I'm at work, it is too emotionally draining on me. If she wants to talk about these things I ask she call me while I'm not at work.
I want her to feel comfortable approaching me but I feel like I need to set some boundaries for myself. She has taken full advantage of my availability and I'm beginning to feel like a doormat. We rarely talk after 8p (when she gets off work) and that is when I'm least distracted and able to talk. Is this too controlling? Any opinions?
