New, looking for help. WAW won't communicate.

[okjpc]

MCS,
Amen. It's really mind twisting. I've gone back and started reading your sitch from the beginning and the conversations you've had with other people on the forum. I've seen you grow through your postings and I know that some day I'll look back on my own postings and notice big changes. Being open and honest with my feelings is still not something that comes naturally to me. B/c I'm a man? Not sure, but honesty inspires honesty.

This sitch has gotten me to open up to a couple of people outside the sitch and having that open communication with them has been a lifesaver. I did reach to one friend of my W. She made it clear that she had no answers for me, so I stopped pushing. But every few days my mind comes up with some brilliant idea for reaching out to my WAW's parents, co-workers, etc. Luckily, I haven't followed through on those ideas.

I'm sure a lot of people here feel this way - I wish I had found DB months before my W walked out and went NC, but I'm glad I found it when I did. I am pretty sure that if I hadn't I would have made my sitch much more difficult and painful.

Last thing, but i appreciate you posting about the cycles of getting angry then obsessing about getting her back. That cycle for me lasts about 4 hours (on a good day). I'm glad to hear that you're at 2 weeks between turns. Gives me hope!

Thanks again, man.