Why does blame need to be placed? How does that make you more whole?
This seems too obvious to me so I must not be thinking hard enough We've talked a lot about how this really is all about him and who he is, and not about me. So then it has to be his fault, right? If I contributed largely or even 50/50 to this.. it's really not about him anymore, it's about both of us. And then that turns everything upside down from what we've been talking about for months, and means that I largely or at least 50/50 contributed to the downfall of this M, which means I'd have a different type of work to do than just accepting this is who he is and he didn't want to be M. I mean, it can't be both "this is all about him and not about me" but also "he is not to blame"...right??
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final
We've talked a lot about how this really is all about him and who he is, and not about me. So then it has to be his fault, right? If I contributed largely or even 50/50 to this.. it's really not about him anymore, it's about both of us. And then that turns everything upside down from what we've been talking about for months, and means that I largely or at least 50/50 contributed to the downfall of this M, which means I'd have a different type of work to do than just accepting this is who he is and he didn't want to be M. I mean, it can't be both "this is all about him and not about me" but also "he is not to blame"...right??
