Claire -- still here #11...

[bravo61]

claire, hate to be devil's advocate but here goes. you don't think he could change. get it, understand. but do you realize that he thought the same thing about you?
in regards to the friend's not liking him, were they married to him? so who cares what they think. my wife's friend's think i'm a scumbag. why? cause that is how she painted me. were they there when i would bring lunch to her at her job? nope. were they there when i held her hair when she was sick and throwing up? no. were they there when i would open the garage door and wait for her in the driveway to carry all the groceries inside? you guessed it. not many people will tell the good things along with the bad. why is that usually the case? because i think most people inherently reach out for sympathy-not to be told to suck it up. i think a lot of us LBS sometimes cling to the poor behavior of now (and the past) to force ourselves to detach. but this is the same thing a WAS does. kinda puts things in perspective for me.

please keep in mind that this is what i have to remind myself everyday so i don't become bitter and resentful. that would do me and my kids no favor and it would bring me right back to the person i used to be. but admittedly i struggle.

all that said, he probly is truly an a+hole. but we don't really know what he is thinking, feeling.

as always, i'll be praying for you.