RJ, Underdog, KAW, Renew, TripleJ, Wonder, Carrie, B

Thanks for checking in on me everyone! I really appreciate it! Nice to feel the support from all of you.

KAW - Thanks for visiting and the post. Your insights are very helpful and always welcome. Like you and Renew said, the slow process of building the consistent + interactions are happening, but it is like thawing a galcier, very slow. Ultimate objective is to have her want to come back for another + interaction, if I can make her feel good, she'll want more of me.

I now pay full attention to her and turn towards all of her communication bids (John Gottman) and make good eye contact. My eye contact could be more relaxed which is what I'm working on.

RJ - You always are so good at helping me break it down into little steps that I can focus on. I am compiling a list of these things with your assistance.

Fri - Called WAW and said I was calling to see if you are having a better day than Wed since you sounded kinda down. She made a mistake on client and she was stressed out about that. She really gets down on herself for making mistakes. I listened and empathized with mmmmhmmms and I'm sorry to hear that. She seemed to talk more after that, that does work.

She said she is tired from a fundraising event held at Salon that her employee/GF (best friend) initiated. She was up until 1:30a cleaning up after GF bailed out early bec she was drunk. WAW was upset bec GF has also slacked on work duties and is bad for morale. WAW wants to fire her and said she doesn't want to hire friends anymore. Total contradiction from before when she plans to hire all friends and OM. She might be beginning to feel if people in this new life aren't all that great.

She said FIL and MIL are really upset at her for doing somthing that they found really disappointing. They won't talk to her right now. This is their pattern for showing their displeasure. She said she feels really bad about it. I again listened and empathized. I did say that family will stick with you all the time, they love you uncondtionally, no matter what you do (also referring to me). She replied with yeah thats the good thing about family. AM I MISSING SOMTHING HERE? OR IS SHE BLIND?

She said the dog was sick and needed to go to the vet. I immediately said I would come and take her right now, how bad was it? She resisted at first but I said I just want the dog to be healthy, I care for her very much. So she agreed I would pick her up on Sat. We then arranged for me to have dog until Mon. night bec she is doing more remodelling at Salon. We got off the phone and I called vet and called her right back. Quick action shows her concern and is a 180 for me. We shared a couple of inside jokes and stuff only we connect with. Said bye bye in our voice.