You can do this even though it seems impossible. You are their mother and that is a fact. You are in this for the long haul and the more you are able to detach and rise above the better you'll look to everyone and the more powerful you will feel. A punch in the nose will only make you feel good for a minute but living well is the best revenge. Besides if you break her nose she'll probably get plastic surgery and say it was needed to fix the damage you caused!
I am so sorry this is happening. Try to see the bigger picture and know that your girls will see it too when they are older. Do you have something fun planned while they are with H? Definitely GAL. I am envious you live in NY. Always something going on and right now distractions are a good thing.
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M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
