Some 180s I was thinking about: Stop automatically placating to avoid conflict. Ask for help. Instead of doing everything and feeling overwhelmed (and then internally acting like a martyr), ask for help when I need it. Laugh more (I've already started doing this). Don't let myself become moody and brooding. Stop telling W everything I am doing or about to do. She doesn't need an ongoing narration of my day. I need to stop feeling the need to fill the silence all of the time. Be more affectionate. While I can't do that with her I can give my boys more hugs, pats on the back, etc. Doing fun things with my boys. She may not like or want to do what we are doing, but that shouldn't stop me from being an involved dad.
Last edited by Okabe; 12/07/1403:24 PM.
M-44 W-44 Sons- 11&14 Married- 18 Together- 27 Separation mentioned- 9-29-14 Still together, but not "together" "if you feel rotten and forgotten, remember there'll be better days."
