I've been with my husband since high school. Together 19 years married 11. I thought everything was fine until this past year. Found out he had a female co-worker "friendl". They were going to lunch and exchanging email and texts. He has known her for over a year, this is when he decides to lose weight and change how he dresses. Of course I'm to blame for some of the problems that we have had. Extremely jealous. I told him if he would just talk to me that I wouldn't be as suspicious. Well these past three months have been horrible. He won't talk to me. When I ask him what is wrong he tells me I don't know. I finally had enough three weeks ago and I told him that he should go stay with his parents for a couple of weeks so he did. He came to see our 5 year old son a couple of days later. He told me he that he loves me but not in love with me, and that he didn't think we could work anything out and that he doesn't even want to try. Any suggestions? I love my husband and I want to make it work. I've been doing the no contact unless he contacts me.