New, looking for help. WAW won't communicate.

[okjpc]

Thank you all for the conversation. My kids spent the night at grandparents, so I had my first night away from them in a few weeks. Went out with a couple friends and had some good talks and laughs. Driving home I was thinking, "You know what? Screw her. Yes, we were fighting and I was pretty angry the last couple of months she was in the house, but I tried repeatedly to talk about the issues that were on the table and she refused to communicate about them. I tried to do MC with her and she stopped coming after two sessions. She left my children after she assured my daughter that she would never leave her (like her biological mother did). She broke off contact between my S&D and SS&SD and me from SS&SD. She severed all financial ties, said that I had destroyed the family, that she was never coming back, and has steadfastly refused to communicate for two months. So why would I want to be married to her?! Yes, I love her deeply and can't imagine life with anyone else but her, but she has acted in an appalling way."

It was the first real feeling of detachment I have experienced since she left. And the first evidence of my GAL efforts paying off.