Quote: Key to focus on your similarities and commonalities with W. This is basic psychologogy that people are attracted to those they can connect with in their current values, interests, passions- those who have similar lifestyle,etc. Maybe it's about time you check out some punk music?! heehe! Completely mirror her in even small things like behaviorisms, tone of voice, communication style.
Great advice! When W and I were getting dressed to go out to the mall the other day, we had actually put on very similar outfits. It was funny, and we definitely looked like a couple while we were out and about. (Just don't go overboard on the similarity making and mirroring, you're still you also)
Quote: As usual Karen is dead on, Maybe this will help slow down your pace and help you, as well as me and everybody, be more PATIENT. I admit to looking for immediate changes and know this CANNOT be the case. Everyone says it time and time and time again, patience.
Mmmmmhmmm. I know I need to remember this one too. It seems sometimes when I get a babystep, I'm already vying for the next one. But I'm learning its much better if we savor each success as it comes, and trust that if we keep doing what works more will come.
Quote: It is rare to come over here and hear you whinning and moaning, You always seem to just pick yourself up and jump back into the ring for more.
Yes!
Quote: I need everyone's opinion on this. What do I tell the WAW? 1 - Be mysterious - He is moving to town and will be staying with me and leave it at that, should I say living instead of staying? 2 - Be honest - He is moving to town and will be staying with me until he finds an apartment or somewhere to live 3 - Be like I'm moving on - He is moving to town and will be living with me 4 - Be casual - Not say anything at all until she somehow finds out and just mention it like it was nothing (doesn't show very much respect?)
How about a little of 2 and 3 mentioned casually in your next conversation (not contacting her just to tell her about this). Something along the lines of he'll be staying with you while he looks for a place, but you've told him he there's no rush? But be respectful of her too... if you choose, you could honestly ask her how she feels about it, it shows you value her opinions (just be ready not to react right away to whatever she might say). Does that sound plausible?
