Thanks Betsey. It is really hard to remain patient. I'm sure everyone can relate to this. I keep trying but it is really hard with such little progress.

My best man from my Wedding is moving to town from LA. This will be great for me because he is a good friend. I have invited him to live with me at the house until he finds an apartment. Realistically, this could be temporary or he could stay, going to play it by ear.

I need everyone's opinion on this. What do I tell the WAW?
1 - Be mysterious - He is moving to town and will be staying with me and leave it at that, should I say living instead of staying?
2 - Be honest - He is moving to town and will be staying with me until he finds an apartment or somewhere to live
3 - Be like I'm moving on - He is moving to town and will be living with me
4 - Be casual - Not say anything at all until she somehow finds out and just mention it like it was nothing (doesn't show very much respect?)

Main objectives.
1 - I don't want to backtrack on any DB efforts we've made so far.
2 - I want her to feel welcome at home and feel like she has the option of coming home and that nothing is a barrier or would make it more difficult for her to coming home
3 - I want her to feel respected and considered
4 - I want her to come home

After our last R talk, we essentially agreed to work on our friendship and I agreed (many times before too) to not stand in the way of her D papers. I have said I would look at the D papers and comment. Since then, some very small baby steps and more contact, all in context of friends.

I don't want to push her away any further, but I somehow wonder if this isn't the first step in making her feel like I'm really moving on? I also wonder if this is Gods way of either helping me to appear like I'm moving on or telling me to move on? Either way, in the greater "context" of where we are in our R currently, I wonder if appearing to detach and move on would draw her closer? Would it push her further away (he really doesn't love me)?

Should I be casual in my delivery (not respectful) or be more serious sit down talk(respectful but maybe pressuring)?