Supposed to go to WAW business but got a vmail from her saying "Oops, I'm a dork I meant to call GF, I'll see you this afternoon." She didn't have to leave a vmail, why did she even leave a message? Maybe she is getting more comfortable around me? Hard not to get hopes up when she does this, got to detach more. Her GF and I have close cell numbers.
Just got back from WAW business, I got laser hair removal from my back! Ouch, ouch! Actually didn't hurt that bad because I'm not a really hairy guy but this has been somthing WAW has wanted me to do for a long time. (Making an effort now!)
One of her GF working asked "How are you doing?" and I said good and we chit chatted. She seemed concerned about me and how I was doing, didn't know if WAW and her talked about somthing? I guess I'll never know.
I walked our dog and gave her treats and reinforced the shake hands trick I taught her last week. She learns so fast! She has got it down. WAW called me on my cell while I was walking to see where I was. I found out when I saw cell when I got back to car, I was only gone 30 min. When I got back to the salon WAW said the little girls of a client in there were "wondering" where dog was. Is this weird she called? More comfortable?
I was pretty relaxed when I spoke to WAW and we had a good conversation, no ice walls, no daggers, no tenseness. I'm thinking just being friendly and relaxed goes a long way. WAW asked about my basketball game (been a long time since she asked a follow up question to somthing I talked about earlier).
We talked about the laser hair removal, I sympathized how much her laser veiricose vein treatment must have hurt when she had it done a year ago and we kinda connected on that shared history together. We talked about the technition who performed and she was from Hawaii where we got M. We also talked about the Money Tree again and helping her bring more cash into the cash register.
She asked what I had brought her in an envelope (email and newspaper article about veiricose veins - I always used to clip newspaper articles out for her - coincidence about the veiricose veins today) and I told her. Showed concern for her and she said thank you. She then said Um, do you have ... and I immediatley ASSumed she was going to ask about D papers and I said I had been busy and not worked on them yet. She said I was going to ask you about the taxes. Dumb Seattle, QUIT ASSuming! I said Oh, I'll call you with that. She playfully gave me an angry look (somthing she would always do with me) and I playfully smiled and said don't give me that look, I don't deserve it, and she smiled and we laughed. Almost flirtatious?
I need to be better at looking her in the eye and connecting and not being afraid of being rejected. I felt her gaze at me a couple times and I should have used the opportunity to connect with one of those come hither looks.
She said I was dressed very Spring like. At least she noticed. I said casually, I'm meeting friends at restaurant/bar up the street to see a Jazz Band (she has been into bands lately, but more alternative/punk bands) and you could meet the owner (she's been trying to network, so this shows effort and concern), want to come? She hesitated for a second like she was thinking and said she kinda had plans. I think she might have even considered it for a second. I think this might be a baby step? I just said, ok, maybe another time, consistently casual.
I asked if I could meet her for coffee tomorrow then and walk the dog? She said not tomorrow. I said ok, how about a day when dog will be at home alone? She said to call her and we could figure it out. At least she is considering now.
Before I left a GF walked up and was talking shop to WAW and I was on other side of counter. To take pressure off WAW, I knelt down petting dog. WAW leaned over counter and was reaching her hands out as if she were going to touch me but touched the counter, three or four times and was saying "Thank you for getting your treatment done, thank you for walking dog, thank you for my emails, thank you for coming in"
I could have used this to connect with her more, more eye contact. I was casual, maybe too casual, and touched her hand and said you're welcome. I'll talk to you later.
Do you need anything at Home Depot? I'm going there now. She actually listed a few things but then said she would go there herself. At least she is considering these things and maybe letting me into her life a little at a time. Man this is slow, it took 5 months of S and OM to get to this point? Geez.
