You need to just be the best father you can be for your D14 right now. you may feel you are loosing her for a while. Just keep being there and being the best you can be. She will figure things out and come back to you.
When my wife moved out with my three daughters, she and her family poisoned them so much they did not want anything to do with me. I did a lot of reading and sole searching. Regardless of what they said or did i stayed there for them. They eventually figured things out and now all three are living with me by their own choice.
So, don't loose faith. Time will expose everything. be strong and be there for your daughter.
I agree with AJ Matt, you need to take the time to figure things out and set yourself free. If you are still letting things like her approval get to you,you still have not detached. You need to do this so your new job won't suffer. Get your new job in order. Get your self back on track. Start to do some things for yourself, alone.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"