Seattle- Good job!! I think you definitely diffused a bomb/some daggers by being proactive and reassuring her about the papers. You showed her you were thinking of her, and didn't give her a reason to nag. Now you can relax a little with that and deal with some of the other chaos in your life!!
I got all caught up on your sitch the past few weeks last night, and I really do think things are going well for you. I know it's hard to see when you're on the inside. But I think you've found some things that work. You are being consistently loving and thoughtful with W. She seems to be allowing you in a little more each time (actions) but is holding on to those D papers pretty steadfastly (words). I think with buying some time on the D papers you should just keep up what you've been doing. Do you have any new strategies? Any new ideas? I know you are the king of brain-storming and ideas, I'm sure you've got a few up your sleeve.
Actually, that reminds me of something I've been meaning to mention to you. I know that you think a lot about your W and your M and the things that you can do to make things work. One thing I would encourage you to do is make sure you keep track of the ways you are 'showing' her this in relation to the time you spend on it and then keep it in perspective. Okay, I don't think I said that very well... My H is a big time thinker. He is alwyas thinking and spends lots of his time in his own head. I get the feeling you might be like this a little as well? You are always brainstorming and working on ideas, letters, etc. This is great. It's wonderful actually because you are a very thoughful and deliberate person. But, the flip side of that is while you are in your head thinking about us and the M and what not, we have no idea of this. We think you're ignoring us or the issue at hand. Many times throughout our M I would accuse my H of not thinking about me, etc, and he would tell me it was quite the opposite, but at the time, we can't read your minds!! We have no idea what's going on in there!! So, just wanted to share that with you. Don't know if it pertains or not, just my two cents.
