jstx - Thanks for the insights. I really do mean that. I think I'm there but unsure, teetering myself now. I would not use it as a ploy, only for myself. I am not the one pushing for it so all I have to do is allow it to happen. If I do allow it, then the hard decisions come to play, how I act as if 1 - as a good friend, talkative, engaging, giving, 2 - friendly but not a friend but still open, approachable, kind, gentle, 3 - both 1&2 at times, 4 - go dark or grey.
I don't believe 4 is effective, I have yet to see a success story with 4.
I just called WAW business and she was friendly but not overly. She immediately said what's up? So I reassured her I have not forgotten about her or the papers, I explained I'm overwhelmed at work, stressed out, tired, etc. Went down the list of things and asked if I should continue with what I'm doing and she said no.
I asked if the dog was there and I was planning to come by and walk her. Dog was at her apt. I asked if I could have visitation and she said no, she needs another week because it was too traumatic for her. I said ok, well can I walk her on Sat or Sun? She said yes, dog will be there on Saturday when I come in for my appointment.
I switched subjects to the movie Godfather (trying to connect there)and chit chatted about that and she was friendly (more so than at first), how the business was doing, I cracked some funny comments, we chuckled and then said goodbye.
She was fairly friendly and seemed open. I don't know if my comments about papers diffused her pressure, but I think it might have. Like it was a load off her mind she didn't have to ask me about it. Didn't have to feel guilty about it. I guess I just bought myself some more time.
