So I talked to a friend today who had a thought on what W is currently doing with OM.

W has been spending time with OM and his GF since BD. If I believe W, he broke up the R right before she BD's in our M. So, I've thought my W is still pursuing him, trying to make him reconsider. She did tell me she tried 'anything' in July to get him to reconsider. So I'm sure there still an emotional attachment on her part still.

However my friend had a good point, maybe OM and GF are the only ones that aren't judgjng Her right now. OM knows the sitch and GF is clueless about it and see's W as a D victim right now. No one in our circle of friends knew of OM, when she left. However she was looked down upon by most people because of how she left the M, she walked out and left kids behind and went totally NC with almost everyone.

Anyway, I'm thinking my next step would be to try and walked the careful line of not judging, but still enforcing my boundaries. Not sure how to do that, but I know I need to stop the commentary on how I don't think she's putting the kids first in her life right now. I just don't know how to balance that and still protect them the way I think i need to at the moment.

M:36 W:37
T: 15 M:11
S6 D5
BD: 8/10/14
IDLY: 8/12/14
S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids)
D Mentioned: 10/15/14
Confronted about OM: 10/15/14
EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13
She filed: 8/15 (not final)