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KG, I think Zues summed it up perfectly. You are not perfect, far from it-none of us are. But you are choosing to not break your M vows. You and your H said these vows in front of friends, family and God and you are living up to YOUR PART of the agreement. I've been thinking about that "better or worse" line quite a bit lately…seems like too many people just say it and like Zues said, a lot of people don't take it seriously when things get tough…well, for all of us on these boards right now, this is about as "worse" as it is going to get. It's times like these that literally make or break marriages because one person just wants to give up and thinks that they will find something better-they'll have reality hit them sooner or later. It's these same people that have been divorced 4 times and wonder why they still aren't happy.

From what I read from your thread, nothing you did IMO was enough to break up a M over…but your H is making that choice to call it quits when things are rough. He doesn't quite get it like you do, that when you said those vows, you actually meant every single word of it. Someday, he'll wake up and realize that he just lost the best thing that ever happened to him. Whether you are there for that moment is really up to you and how long you are willing to wait for him to wake up, if you want to do that at all. Keep your head above water, you'll be more than ok no matter what happens.