I've been convinced to give up more than once, and each time H has asked me (yes, ASKED ME) to reconsider. They swing in and out is my experience.
However, as we know, things have taken an unexpected turn lately in my sitch and so I'm probably not one to give advice.
That said, YOU are handling things very well for 5 months into this. If I had handled things half that well (I didn't have DB then), I do believe it would have greatly helped my sitch. At 5 months, I was recovering from a bad car crash and heaping guilt and anger and diagnoses on my H, and we were talking practically every day then.
Which leads me to my next point... read that thread from JJ that merrick posted here. I read it every now and then and think it takes a while to get there... and it takes discipline to stay there, and finally starts to be more and more your norm (except when you get really thrown by something...but even then, it comes back).
What is the status of these papers? Are they from her atty? I too am wondering about what is best to do about that topic. I also wonder if it might take the pressure off them somehow. I'm coming more and more to the idea that they really ARE just pieces of paper at this point... that it's not like I really want the R I have right now anyway.
Maybe we win either way-- we D the mess and either get the cool and wise new R we've been wanting with our WAS eventually or we get a new R down the road with someone who respects and cares about us in action as well as word and who has their own head on straight enough to have an R at all.
So maybe we are agreeing to D the limbo state by agreeing to the papers? I am thinking out loud here and sorry if iut's not helpful.
