Good stuff AJ and right on the mark I believe. As for your last question, no I don't need her approval but it still does bother me that she really seems to believe that her actions are totally justified and uses her re-remembered past to "prove" to me how justified her actions are. I have noticed that, unlike in the past (pre-b-day) she doesn't seem to want to even allow me to speak. She will ask me a question and I'll get the first few words out and she jumps down my throat before I can even come close to making my point. This bothers me because it shows she doesn't care what I have to say about anything, she knows what she knows and that's that. This is a total change in who she once was before MLC.
It also shows me that co-parenting is going to be almost impossible. When a problem comes up she is going to want to do things her way (or worse, her fathers) and won't listen. The last thing D14 needs is one parent saying one thing and another something different. Co-parenting also means that I will have to be part of her damn life for years. I know the pain she has caused D19 and I see no way she won't be doing the same to D14.
I feel like I have back tracked a bunch over this. I feel almost like I did in the beginning. I need to get my life back and to do that I need to get my new job going and finish what I need for ME. I'm sick of W's constant need to get her way, to blame and spew and ask for favors and to expect nothing in return.
Thanks AJ, you have some excellent insights. I'm glad you made it through and I will as well.
