Thanks for visiting my thread. While our circumstances are quite different, they are also very much the same.
The only thing I can say from my own experience is that you still have a way to go in detaching. There's nothing wrong in looking for signals or thaws, but true DBing really is about taking care of yourself, while maintaining the intellectual capacity to be open and loving to your WAS, regardless of what they say or do.
Read this post from JamesJohn. I think it captures the attitude best and reflects a point I'm approaching--but took me a while to reach.
