I would not be surprised if BF contacts you and tries to confuse things. He will be super angry that you told the truth to OW, but when they start fighting or conversely when he sees she is a doormat he will suddenly want to talk to you I bet.
Be prepared.
Wow.
Good luck getting through this seriously emotional time. Take care of yourself, drink lots of water and don't operate heavy machinery. Be with loving friends who can hold your hand and make you tea. You'll be ok.
Went to IC and bawled my head off. Went back to work looking ridiculous with a puffy face and red eyes. Yuck.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Lisa: BF texted me last night after the explosion. He said, "Thank you for telling [OW], I've been feeling guilty and trying to find a way to tell her I f!@#^d up."
I ignored it, of course. OW claims he says he's not mad at me. Who cares?
Part of me is relieved that I was able to tell OW not only his history of cheating AND his inappropriate attentions toward me recently, but my side of our R history, and reveal some of the things he told her that weren't accurate and/or were bold face lies. I don't know why it should make me feel better (it doesn't change anything), but it does.
Moving on for me and only me now, with no hope for the R, although I wish it could be different.
The hopeless romantic in me hopes that at some point he'll realize what he lost in me and decide he made a mistake to be with her, but I know that's unrealistic and frankly stupid.
I have the closure and the information I was lacking before, so when it never happens, I'll be okay.
Getting through these next few weeks after the healing wounds were blown wide open again is going to be rough, but....I'll manage.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Thanks for commenting, rd500. I don't feel brave. I feel broken down, hurt, betrayed and emotionally wrecked. LOL
I will always love him. Sad but true. I also know me well enough to know that if at any point in our lives going forward he was interested in an R again, I'd make him crawl but I'd take him back.
Life is hard. Life is so, so, so hard.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Poor Little. It sounds like he has some SERIOUS issues. You are better off without him even if he is the smartest, funniest, sexiest guy in the world. He sounds like a serial cheater in a major way and it doesn't seem like he is going to change any time soon.
I would not be at all surprised if he comes crawling back to you, but he sounds like bad news. Of course you know him best so you would have to make that decision when it came to it. But he doesn't sound like he made an accidental mistake, it seems like a pattern.
Obviously he made a HUGE MISTAKE in leaving you, but maybe it is for the best for you. At least right now you need to focus on yourself, curl up in a ball and cry or whatever you need to do to take care of yourself.
Little, Trust me, you won't always be in love with him, you won't be pining for him ten years from now, or five years from now, and probably not even a year from now, as hard as that is to believe. He is buying a house with OW and her daughter? Good grief. You dodged the bullet of a serial cheater and liar with that one. You gave OW fair warning, now it's her problem, not yours. (Find the story about the OW's apology to Christie Brinkley years later.) Christie had warned her... Now you have the truth, and you can move forward with clarity. Yes, it will take time for the hurt to heal, but you will. You will.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
I'm just going to focus on trying to hurt less each day than the one before it and see where I end up.
Went out with a girl pal after work for dinner and some Christmast light viewing. Oddly, one of BF's oldest friends whom I "got in the divorce". LOL. She doesn't pick sides but is one of the few honest, moral, "do the right thing" human beings left in the world. Her advice and friendship has been invaluable to me. Plus, BF is dodging her because he knows if he exposes his new life to her she'll tell it like it is and tell him that she's disappointed in how he handled things with me. He doesn't like being called on his chit.
At any rate, I'm exhausted. I cried so much at IC today that my eyes are stil bloodshot hours later. I need sleep. Night.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
