THIS is where the MAGIC happens.

[daring]

Shining I was where you are until very recently and I understand so well. I was frustrated about the anger- because I couldn't control it, and it made me feel out of control, and like I was failing at this detachment and healing process.
But I couldn't get rid of it, I had to stay in it and do the best I could to take care of myself.
It did help me though now that I look back- it helped me detach a little more ( though I still have a ways to go) and most of all it put me in a place where I felt I was worth more than what I am getting from H now or even earlier in our marriage. I'm able to stand right now with more patience and compassion since I went through that quiet "WTF who the h$ll does he think he is and how did I get here believing his BS" anger stage.

I'm sure I'm not done with cycling through that,'and I HATED that stage when I was there- but I see the benefit.

You are amazingly strong- you will get through this and it's not a sign of weakness that you are angry! It's a sign that your heart and soul recognizes it was wronged and you are worth more than youve been giving yourself credit for!

So rock on with yo bad a$$ self!