Jim0987 #6 - starting a bit of a rebuild

[jim0987]

Ok so I've rewritten that second list in the more positive. Shorterned startegy/priorities/actions to get there to follow

1) My self worth will come from within

2) I will relate what is being said/happening to the circumstances rather than my value as a person

3) I will be socially outgoing

4) I will improve and maintain a toned and healthy appearance

5) I will focus on improving myself to be the best I can

6) I will be self-assured and confident

7) I will be assertive in my requests and my boundaries

8) I will get on with tasks when they arise

9) I will try to improve my financial situation to give more freedom

10) I will manage my finances to give more financial security

11) I will address issues and concerns in a proactive, constructive and mature way

12) I will conduct myself in a positive manner, especially if i’m upset

13) I will manage my frustration and not allow it to develop into either resentment or other negative behaviours

14) I will understand and be able to apply normal social rules

15) I will recognise if I’ve gone too far in making my point or if my jokes have caused upset and make amends accordingly

16) I will recognise if I’m am risking going too far and adjust my behaviour accordingly

17) I will recognise and respond appropriately to emotions in others

18) I will connect and engage positively with other peoples emotions

19) I will become more emotionally persuasive (less reliant on reason and logic)

20) I will be a better more reflective listener

21) I will be more consensual in my decision making to ensure there is agreement rather than appeasement

22) In social conversation I will be open, attentive, interested and interesting

23) I will look for points of agreement rather than points of contention, similarities rather than differences

24) I will be conscientious

25) I will be compassionate

26) I will be mindful of my emotions and how they affect my behaviour

27) I will understand my triggers and control my defence mechanisms

28) when other people are upset I will respond in a way they find caring and supportive

29) I will better control my ability to focus irrespective of my stress levels

30) I will have and project stronger, more confident and relaxed body language

31) I will accept, value and take pride in my strengths

32) I will believe I have something to offer as a friend and as a husband.

33) Be able to dance (have some rhythm)

34) I will not let a fear of rejection affect my decisions and behaviour

35) I will be confident that people will love me (and not insecure about it)