Hi All, this is my first time posting here but I've been reading these forums for a while. Seems to me like there is a lot of good information and support which is exactly what I need right now.
So here's my story...
H and I have been together for 5 years. We got married in a courthouse in Jan of 14 secretly and were planning to have our wedding this November. Back in September, we both left for our bachelor/bachelorette parties. After getting in an argument over the weekend, he sent me a text saying we needed to talk in person when we both got home on Monday. I start to panic, having experienced him pull away from him during arguments in the past when he has threatened to leave. I start pressing him for answers, telling him I'm scared to go home, etc. and he just says he "empathizes with me". Monday afternoon when we talk, I suggest we put off the wedding due to the amount of stress it has caused for us. H then says not only is the wedding definitely off, but he also wants a D and is moving out that night. I beg, cry, plead, threaten to kill myself (so stupid) and do everything I can to convince him not to leave. Of course, he leaves anyway. As he is walking out the door I ask him to think about this decision and about working on things with me and he says he can't make any promises, but that he will call me later that night around 7. After he leaves, I text him non-stop, call, beg and plead some more, which only makes him angry. That night he calls me at 7 and tells me he is done for good and there is nothing I can do to change his mind.
By Tuesday, he had cancelled our entire wedding, told his family and a few of our friends that we were completely done. He also called both my parents and told them that this was really it, and that he wanted me and my son (from a previous relationship) out of the house within the month. The first two weeks I and my son were a wreck. My son considers H his dad, and didn't understand how he could just walk out on us like that. For 3 weeks, H did not call or see me or my son (most importantly). He could, however, send text messages asking me how finding a place was going.
In the last 3 months I've heard it all... "I'm emotionally bankrupt" "You're not the one for me" "You've ruined my life" "I F'd up by marrying you" "Divorce is my only option" and so on and so on.
After going completely dark for almost a month and a half, we met up to talk about logistics. Had a good conversation about my son, financial stuff, etc. He came back to the house that day and spent the entire day there to see my son. I kept retreating to the bedroom and he would tell me that I could come hang out with them if I wanted. The next 2 nights he "dropped by" to pick stuff up. So unlike him so never wanted to be around me previously. He tried to drop by the third night but we weren't home. Then, the 4th night, nothing. No Phone call, text, etc. Complete silence. Then, 5th day, I log on to the county website and see that he filed for D. I was sick to my stomach. I had thought we were making progress. Then, that same night around midnight, he texts me saying he's coming home to stay with my son. I say okay. He comes over and we sleep together.
Me 26 ; H 26 M less than a year B 9/15/14 Moves in with parents 9/15/14 Files 11/21/14
Me 26 ; H 26 S 8 Married less than a year Bomb 9/15/14 H moves out 9/15/14 H Files 11/21/14 Served D papers 12/31/14
