Jim0987 #6 - starting a bit of a rebuild

[Mozza]

Isn't that overly ambitious? How can you keep track and have enough energy to do it all? How can you measure success on so many metrics?

It seems to me like you're only playing to your lack of confidence by making a very long list. I'm no expert, but my instinct would be to focus on 2-3 important things. Here's my list.

1. Ask clearly what I want.
2. Validate rather than criticize.
3. Let go of control.

They cover the major things that lead to my S, which are also my main personality flaws. I can keep that list in my head and be inspired by it during real interactions. It doesn't cover everything I need to improve, but it would be a major step forward.

Another thing you need is to accept who you are. You can't dance, so be it. Your kids think it's fun. It's not important, not something to change. You're you. Stuff like "Be more self-confident" is not something you will into existence, it's something that happens when you accept who you are.