The "miracle" reconciliation happened on Jan. 23. It would be interesting to see if you think that there were clues leading up to that day. From my perspective, H was softening but he was still saying that he wanted a D and he was going to move out. He had angry outbursts and every day he said something about D. Don't get discouraged and don't hang on everything that your W says. Whenever my H said that he didn't want to be M, then I would tell myself that's how he feels RIGHT NOW, AT THIS MOMENT but tomorrow he could feel differently. These alien emotions are not stable and are very transitory.
BTW, I call my reconciliation a "miracle" because, on the day of the bomb (Nov2), I asked H if there was a chance that he would change his mind and he said that it would take a miracle. So now I believe in miracles!!!
Don't lose the faith. You've been working hard and you've come a long way. I constantly remined myself of previous goals that I had set in my life that took a long time to fulfill. For example, when I was 10yrs old I went to a concert at Carnegie Hall and decided that I wanted to play a concert there too someday. I worked EXTREMELY HARD and was very disciplined. I listened to what others told me and, six years later, I was playing a piano concerto at Carnegie Hall with an orchestra. There were others that had similar goals and most of them gave up or were not as diciplined. I stuck with it and it paid off. I believe that DBing is similar. It is really, really hard work and the results are not immediate. The goal is long-term and you have to do the work to get there. You are definitely doing the work and you are doing it well. You're on track, Seattle!
Christine
I am the master of creating positive energy and love in my own environment. I am the source of love in my life. It starts with me! This energy radiates from me! It gives me strength, courage, wisdom and grace!
